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I spent the last couple of days in Boston with my mother. My mother has had a series of strokes that have left her both physically and mentally diminished.

 

My mother chose her apartment for the views.

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I’m not sure how much of those views she actually takes in these days.

While I was there I was struck by the quality of the  winter light.

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While my mother is usually pretty well oriented, at one point she asked me in Hebrew whose apartment she was in and who was paying the rent.  I told her that it was her apartment and that she was paying the rent. She was surprised that she lived in such a large apartment.

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I keep taking pictures of my mother’s things on her window sill. These objects collected over the years, some purchased by my parents, others gifts to them  are as much a portrait of my mother as an actual image of my mother. SAM_3715SAM_3719SAM_3720SAM_3721

 

 

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I am so looking forward to Shabbat with my family. one of our guests is a college friend who I don’t think I have seen since the 1980’s. Both of us have had stressful weeks. I imagine that there will be lots of laughing around the dinner table.

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  1. So sorry to hear about your mother. The glass is lovely with the sun through it.
    I hope you have a wonderful time with your friend. It is good to be with friends when you need support.
    Big hugs,
    Sandy

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  2. How lovely to share an evening with an old friend. Enjoy and de-stress.

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